How to Build Rapport in Seduction
Has it ever happened to you when you meet a stranger you feel that sense of connection between both of you even before you speak to each other? It happens all the time. People who don’t know each other feel a sense of trust even before building a deep conversation. What is the secret behind that? It can be summarized in one word: Rapport.
What is Rapport?
Rapport is the state where two parties are in complete sync. Creating rapport is one of the most powerful tools used in communication, change, and achieving excellent performance. It has been widely used by experts in all fields ranging from coaching, sales, sport, negotiation, and seduction. By using rapport, you can covertly build confidence and trust with the other party.
So if rapport is so important, how can you utilize its power as part of our seduction arsenal? If you want to seduce a woman effectively, you have to build rapport with her in order to gain her trust. This will help build a psychological bridge with her that will facilitate you transition to seduce her easily and more effectively. By appearing that you are doing what she is doing, you are communicating to her unconscious mind that you are like each other. Since commonalities and similarities generate mutual liking, you are one step closer to successfully seduce her.
So how can you effectively induce a state of rapport with her?
There are several methods that Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) practitioners have adopted that will help you create rapport quicker. These tips and techniques must be done congruently and at the right time to be effectively. Try to make your state of rapport look natural otherwise it will be perceived as mimicry. It is worth mentioning that these techniques are displayed in context of seduction. Yet they can be used effectively in any other situation.
1. Matching and Mirroring:
To build rapport with a woman, you have to assume a similar state of mind that she currently has. This can be achieved by matching and mirroring the person’s posture, movement, language, tonality, etc. The best way to describe this technique is for you to imagine yourself in front of a mirror. You will notice the perfect symmetry not only in posture and movement, but also in breathing. Now in order to build a quick rapport with a woman, you need to mirror her posture, energy level, and movement. Then, for rapport to be more powerful, you have to concentrate on her breathing pattern and try to synchronize your breathing pattern with hers. Finally, listen to her voice and words. On one hand start matching the speed, tempo and volume levels of her voice, and on the other hand try to repeat key words that she used in her conversation. For example, if she says: “I am adventurous and fun”. As you continue talking to her, like 15 minutes later, tell her: “Isn’t it amazing when you meet someone who you don’t really know but you find out they are fun and adventurous. Me, I really start to like this person more and more”. This is not as easy as it looks and takes a lot of practice, but once you have a grip on it, it will make wonders. Experts in hypnosis use the matching and mirroring techniques to prepare the subject to be more easily hypnotized and relaxed.
2. Law of Reciprocation:
The art of reciprocation has been used by many leaders to influence people. It is covert and effective. Assume someone gives you a gift or does a favor for you without asking for something in return, doesn’t that trigger a feeling of obligation from you to return the favor? Yes it does. Well it is the same if someone shares with you something about himself/herself. On an unconscious level you would ask yourself why that person is sharing personal information with you if he doesn’t trust you. So you would open up and start reciprocating building connection and trust to that person. One technique you can use is to reveal something about yourself casually and then turn the conversation back to her. Coupled with good questions, she would usually reciprocate and start talking about herself.
3. Revealing commonalities:
The principle of “comrades in arms”, as described in David Lieberman’s book, “Get Anyone to Do Anything”, is very powerful when applied to seduction. If you can share with a woman a common experience, it will create a strong bond. That’s why you find two people who have never met each other, but share similar experience, like winning the lottery or going through the same illness, form a strong friendship instantly. By finding common interests and experiences you build an instant sense of solidarity and trust with the woman. It is essential to keep in mind that when you find someone similar to you, your interest and excitement levels increase and you tend to give up your strong alpha frame. My advice is to keep that level low so that you don’t kill the mystery of the interaction.
4. Assuming Rapport:
In his book “Persuasion Skills: The Black Book”, Rintu Basu reveals that the quickest and simplest way to build rapport with a woman is to assume you already are in rapport with her. On an unconscious level, she will pick up the signals your sending and she will respond by reciprocating. Do that experiment next time you are around your best friend. Notice the level of rapport between both of you. Isn’t it natural and built in? So what I suggest next time you are around a woman, imagine she is your best friend, act around her as natural as you act with your friend and then assume rapport while conversing with her.
In this article, I revealed four techniques that will help you build rapport with a woman instantly. My personal suggestion is that you practice these techniques on friends and let them become part of your natural skill set. As Anthony Robbins said: “Repetition is the mother of skills”. So you need to practice these techniques over and over again.
If you want to progress successfully in the seduction game, work on your rapport building skills as it is critical to facilitate transition to making-out and eventually sex. We recommend the following books and programs that will accelerate your learning curve:
- Alpha Persuasion and Conversation by Carlos Xuma
- Secrets of An Alpha Man by Carlos Xuma
- Power Social Skills by Carlos Xuma
- Get Anyone to Do Anything by David Lieberman
- Persuasion Skills: The Black Book by Rintu Basu
Has it ever happened to you when you meet a stranger you feel that sense of connection between both of you even before you speak to each other? It happens all the time. People who don’t know each other feel a sense of trust even before building a deep conversation. What is the secret behind that? It can be summarized in one word: Rapport.
What is Rapport?
Rapport is the state where two parties are in complete sync. Creating rapport is one of the most powerful tools used in communication, change, and achieving excellent performance. It has been widely used by experts in all fields ranging from coaching, sales, sport, negotiation, and seduction. By using rapport, you can covertly build confidence and trust with the other party.
So if rapport is so important, how can you utilize its power as part of our seduction arsenal? If you want to seduce a woman effectively, you have to build rapport with her in order to gain her trust. This will help build a psychological bridge with her that will facilitate you transition to seduce her easily and more effectively. By appearing that you are doing what she is doing, you are communicating to her unconscious mind that you are like each other. Since commonalities and similarities generate mutual liking, you are one step closer to successfully seduce her.
So how can you effectively induce a state of rapport with her?
There are several methods that Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) practitioners have adopted that will help you create rapport quicker. These tips and techniques must be done congruently and at the right time to be effectively. Try to make your state of rapport look natural otherwise it will be perceived as mimicry. It is worth mentioning that these techniques are displayed in context of seduction. Yet they can be used effectively in any other situation.
1. Matching and Mirroring:
To build rapport with a woman, you have to assume a similar state of mind that she currently has. This can be achieved by matching and mirroring the person’s posture, movement, language, tonality, etc. The best way to describe this technique is for you to imagine yourself in front of a mirror. You will notice the perfect symmetry not only in posture and movement, but also in breathing. Now in order to build a quick rapport with a woman, you need to mirror her posture, energy level, and movement. Then, for rapport to be more powerful, you have to concentrate on her breathing pattern and try to synchronize your breathing pattern with hers. Finally, listen to her voice and words. On one hand start matching the speed, tempo and volume levels of her voice, and on the other hand try to repeat key words that she used in her conversation. For example, if she says: “I am adventurous and fun”. As you continue talking to her, like 15 minutes later, tell her: “Isn’t it amazing when you meet someone who you don’t really know but you find out they are fun and adventurous. Me, I really start to like this person more and more”. This is not as easy as it looks and takes a lot of practice, but once you have a grip on it, it will make wonders. Experts in hypnosis use the matching and mirroring techniques to prepare the subject to be more easily hypnotized and relaxed.
2. Law of Reciprocation:
The art of reciprocation has been used by many leaders to influence people. It is covert and effective. Assume someone gives you a gift or does a favor for you without asking for something in return, doesn’t that trigger a feeling of obligation from you to return the favor? Yes it does. Well it is the same if someone shares with you something about himself/herself. On an unconscious level you would ask yourself why that person is sharing personal information with you if he doesn’t trust you. So you would open up and start reciprocating building connection and trust to that person. One technique you can use is to reveal something about yourself casually and then turn the conversation back to her. Coupled with good questions, she would usually reciprocate and start talking about herself.
3. Revealing commonalities:
The principle of “comrades in arms”, as described in David Lieberman’s book, “Get Anyone to Do Anything”, is very powerful when applied to seduction. If you can share with a woman a common experience, it will create a strong bond. That’s why you find two people who have never met each other, but share similar experience, like winning the lottery or going through the same illness, form a strong friendship instantly. By finding common interests and experiences you build an instant sense of solidarity and trust with the woman. It is essential to keep in mind that when you find someone similar to you, your interest and excitement levels increase and you tend to give up your strong alpha frame. My advice is to keep that level low so that you don’t kill the mystery of the interaction.
4. Assuming Rapport:
In his book “Persuasion Skills: The Black Book”, Rintu Basu reveals that the quickest and simplest way to build rapport with a woman is to assume you already are in rapport with her. On an unconscious level, she will pick up the signals your sending and she will respond by reciprocating. Do that experiment next time you are around your best friend. Notice the level of rapport between both of you. Isn’t it natural and built in? So what I suggest next time you are around a woman, imagine she is your best friend, act around her as natural as you act with your friend and then assume rapport while conversing with her.
In this article, I revealed four techniques that will help you build rapport with a woman instantly. My personal suggestion is that you practice these techniques on friends and let them become part of your natural skill set. As Anthony Robbins said: “Repetition is the mother of skills”. So you need to practice these techniques over and over again.
If you want to progress successfully in the seduction game, work on your rapport building skills as it is critical to facilitate transition to making-out and eventually sex. We recommend the following books and programs that will accelerate your learning curve:
- Alpha Persuasion and Conversation by Carlos Xuma
- Secrets of An Alpha Man by Carlos Xuma
- Power Social Skills by Carlos Xuma
- Get Anyone to Do Anything by David Lieberman
- Persuasion Skills: The Black Book by Rintu Basu
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